In the science of psychology the field of attachment has been really important to the study of human thinking and behaviour.  Since we right at the beginning of life are so dependent it is no surprise that this process of how we relate to  significant others is fundamental to our emerging adult.  There have been many profound writers in this area of work which is a continued evolving process rather like ourselves.  From Klien who said that at the start of life there is confusion as the child begins to recognise that the parent is both good and bad.  If the baby is fed straight away then comfort and warmth and security is attached to the relational feeding process.  If the baby has to wait or has colic afterwards the parent is experienced as scary or bad.  At first the baby separates the parent and sees them as 2 people as it cannot take in the idea that the comforting one can also be the one that causes pain.  Here we see our sensitivity right at the start because of our primal needs of food warmth and security which the baby cannot do alone. WE ARE DEPENDENT as babies.  No other animal on the planet looks after its young the way we do and holds the same emotional sensitivity in the bonding process.  Therefore attachment theory and the human experience is bound to hold some sort of confusion.  In relation to the higher power perhaps the invitation to be open hearted is also to let another attachment enter on another level which does not profess to be perfect or rescue but to be there with ones life and different  experiences.  The great thing about this is as adults we are not the baby who has to go through the pain of awakening to the parent being both good and bad.  Although i do think that cases of denial of toxic relationships and putting people on pedestals holds this early stuff of wanting the ideal.  Its the fabric of romantic illusion in life that can be in the human tissue of yearning to see the perfect and not wanting to look at reality.  Its hard to prove but why would it not make sense that this very process starts as early babies and the pain of having to accept that who you thought was  so good and safe is also not.     Hopefully we have learned this and can see that people and our attachments are not perfect.  With this we have the choice to put our expectation into a more healthy framework and this includes ones connection to a higher power..