This can be a significant process as it allows personal inventory at a  level where one can understand some of the negative character traits.  This offers compassionate understanding rather then punitive judgement and can help the process of letting go.  For example, the lying fantasist may see that what has been created is because of not fitting in and seeing the self as not being enough for others to be interested.  Therefore, to lye about ones associates, boast about success that has not really happened on the level spoke about and making out your someone your not is because of these deep vulnerabilities.  Someone who is forever going on about how unwell they are or pity pot woe is me may have found ways of getting attention when young and hold messages of “Don’t Be Well” otherwise you wont get your needs met.  The individual who seems cold and heartless may have an injunction of “Don’t Feels”.  It allows us to understand our own self intimacy at a much deeper level.  People have flaws for a reason and these are not always at a cognitive level because of early decisions constructed by how we felt in the past.  Our frame of reference is constructed by this process.  The contradiction is that what we construct to be safe in the world from a child logical place often ends up providing the opposite.  The safety of what is familiar and worked once upon a time  is not always good for us.