“A male tiger and female tiger is neither more or less whether you suppose them only existing in their appropriate wilderness, or whether you suppose a thousand pairs.  But man is truly altered by the co-existence of other men:  his faculties cannot be developed in himself alone and only himself.  Therefore the human race not by a bold metaphor, but in sublime reality, approach to, and might become, one body”. S.T. Coleridge, letters, 1806.  Nothing has changed since that time, we need others and step 5 is the beginning of that sharing and not living out the isolation.  Author Sue Gerhart wrote a book about “Why Love Matters” and the significance of this is about the power of affection and how it shapes a baby,s brain.  The book is about going back to the beginning of time and seeing how our attachments impact early development  and the central nervous system. That harsh starts in life often have consequences of not developing empathy as adults.  Additionally,   Its found that positive looks are the most vital stimulus to the growth of our social brain.This is also relevant to “Trying Not to Feel” as sharing is a emotional process of soul connection.  There are links between early emotional regulation and the immune system.  This is where hiding and not sharing can have dire consequences on recovery .  This goes right back to the beginning of our lives and how we needed this for early development.  “The avoiding reaction tends to spread.  It can be carried to such a point that the individual is not only steeled against the appeal and suffering of others but he actually dreads appealing to their sympathy and may for example conceal illness for fear of making a fuss or scene”.  Ian Suttle, The origins of Love and Hate, 1935.  I further this by saying we may conceal for fear of rejection, judgement and consequences.  We have also learned that the brain is not set in stone and whatever we feed ourselves emotionally no matter what age we are has an impact.  This is why “Love Matters” all through our lives just as it did at the birth of self.