I also see step 6  being about letting oneself be committed to emotional maturity in being guided by a spiritual parent who has the wisdom of heart.  If we are open minded enough to look at ourselves, life and be committed to change from a cognitive place then this cultivates emotional maturity.  This in turn then allows the re-programming in certain areas of the personality and brain functioning.  This allows us to make script re-decisions about ourselves and life.    In turn this reciprocally impacts our heart and how we feel about others, life and the self.  The compassionate heart allows defences to come down and us to re-programme because we have put our self will to the side to allow spiritual contentment, belief and faith.  The writer S R  Covey wrote about living a principled life which includes the consideration of others, being accountable, not being controlling but only concentrating on what we can influence in a helpful and pro-active way.  That we develop habits that are unhealthy and that with accountability and being responsible we can re-programme and change these over time.  In other words re-programming is possible and a productive and life enhancing way to be for yourself and others. This is also about preparation and reflection which are both important ingredients for emotional maturity.  Step 6 is about preparing for a significant change in life in heart, mind and adopting the best attitude to develop the self.  Afterall. this is a lifetime job and a principled way to live .  We will not be healed immediately , rather recovery from addiction or emotional script or both will be a daily effort to evaluate, balance and adjust the healthy expression of all our needs in an appropriate way.