It may be questioned how step 7 and humility relates to script. How can this step help our script? How can this step connect with script theory or process at all? There is nothing in Transactional Analysis and Script Analysis that suggests Humility, so how does it fit?
Its not so much about fitting but cross transacting the script process which can have positive effects. Our script is constructed for our survival in the most logical form in that period of our lives, which was childhood. Therefore, from this perspective it is a developmental time that is dependent, needy, self absorbed and for obvious reasons about self preservation. In adulthood some of our script behaviours could be rather self absorbed and selfish whether this in in our awareness or not.
We become emotional feeders to feel alive, important, get our fix of stimulation and connection to life and others. However, this is not always generous of heart or productive to our lives or even conductive to what is going on in the here and now.
To live a principled way with a step 7 on humility has the potential to cross transact over our self centred needy ways. We are using a emotion that involves the compassion for others. The principled way to live which connects us in a spiritual way to life and love. This not only has the impact of cross transaction but can also dilute the need to feed from those self absorbed sources and game playing with life.
The power of this step is profound but gentle.
Addictions are self soothers and a survival strategy that originate in the Ego that has created defenses that no longer work for the good of self nor those that come into contact with the addict.
The last thing a person who has stopped using and feeling wretched wants to hear is that they must be humble! I have stopped drinking and now I must give up my precious defenses? But the ego must be disengaged from the damaging behaviours and drop the protective defenses that underpin the addiction. Damaging scripts must be edited. It takes humility to step out of victim -hood and self obsession. The feeling that the whole universe hates me and is against me is strangely a very negative but egocentric position. This realisation is such a big shift toward sobriety. Detaching the ego from damnaging scripty thinking liberates the self to engage differently with the world and results paradoxically in a greater free sense of self that can attain what the individual really needs to hopefully get happy.