THE step 7 is also about acceptance that life is not always how we would like it “our selfishness”.  The script is about self absorbed selfishness at times because of the survival strategies based on human attachment needs.  With difficult circumstances we can revert to type as they call it in psychological terms .  I call it reverting to script and the strategies that we are used to which do not always allow growth and learning and they are often about the avoidance or denial off because of the pain that can be involved.    This can be a shame as difficult circumstances are a chance to grow in bravery and in wisdom.  When things fall apart and we cant seem to get our pieces together, when we loose something dear, when life is not working properly, when people upset us, when we feel sorry for ourselves or don’t know what to do. etc etc etc.  This is the time for opportunity and growth if we embrace learning and accept that life has its difficulties.  Its a chance to come out of the protective bubble of script.  In a way the script in adulthood cons us by this very idea which is a myth or illusion.  It is not a protection in the way we believe but a prevention.  It can prevent us from reaching our full potential in someways depending on the beliefs and messages we hold.  The step 7 can keep this in balance and keep the healthy protection side in check but leave enough space not to prevent this opportunity for growth which comes from the pain life can throw at us.