I LOVE PEMA CHODRON who is not only a great teacher, writer and person but is honest about her own script problems and does not profess to be perfect. We all have such script entanglements which hold pain, guilt, discounting, denial, depression, hedonism and self loathing.  All can be about the avoidance of unwanted feeling or not wanting to look at situations. “The bury the head in the sand syndrome”.  Pema has a method called COMPASSIONATE ABIDING which is a great leveller for all the stuff that we can suffer from in our script.  This technique can help you stay with a script process that you would usually act out.  Again i see it as relevent to a step 7 action.  Its about bringing warmth to unwanted feelings.  After all, if we are in a sad or angry child place inside do we not need nurturing and being with.  This is a way of providing that parenting to yourself and accessing your inner nurturer.  In childhood even if we are angry and having a tantrum we really need holding, containment, safety and a hug.  the best way to see this is giving yourself the hug you need and not having to run away from yourself.  What would you say about a mother or father who ran away from their child because they were sad, angry or scared.  What do you think that child would need?  This technique of COMPASSIONATE ABIDING is a direct method for embracing our experience rather then rejecting it.  Script hooks you rather like addiction.  By staying with a process, stepping back physically or sitting down but being aware of this and taking time to breath, inviting ourselves to relax and take time, letting the feeling be there and not pushing it away.  Abiding with the feeling is acceptance of self “warts and all’  we may see things we don’t want to about the self, such as edginess, aggression, sadness, failure, shame,  disdain, fear and envy.  As  you breath out you give the feeling and yourself space.  It ventilates the discomfort and means you are willingly touching parts of yourselves that are often avoided.   We can synchronise this with our breath and a step 7 appreciation for life and humility.  This is part of life “feeling uncomfortable” “seeing our “black shadow” the parts we do not like and would fear others seeing.  With this technique and step 7 philosophy we can transact over the script process and invitation to act out emotionally which can trigger addiction relapse.  We are rejecting this reactive energy and not ourselves.  The feelings that we thought are destructive and we must avoid are not but the rejection of ourselves can be negative .  The scripty feelings can con us into patterns of avoiding which are destructive to the self and others in our lives.