I facilitate a group of lovely ladies that relates to script and change.  This has been going for a couple of months and has been really successful and inspiring in relation to the power of groups, identifications, support, intimacy and safety.  Groups often go through stages of “forming”  the stage is set and constructing- “norming”- Where is feels natural to be going to the group and seeing ones peers. “Storming” Where work is put into the cauldron of the group to process and “performing”  Where the really gritty work gets the opportunity grow, process  and learn from.  This group are already storming with taking risks with their peers and self disclosure.  It said to me that more private practice groups could really do with being set up.

Even with a new member this group worked well creating safety, being interested, identifying with each other, taking the risks to disclose.  They could see how much work they had done on changing their life script and what this took to achieve.  Here strokes were really important as its hard work and we all need acknowledgement for this.  2 of the group members went to SLA which they found really useful.  One who is a newcomer to SLA “sex and love addiction” even took the risk to speak about her vanity ideal in group which was wonderful to see.  Additionally, how a member who is already in the fellowship supported her in taking her to a SLA group.  Its so important that people are part of something real and honest as it can be so freeing.  I am hopeful that this will grow and more connections will be made.

Another member spoke about her relationships with others and how she no longer pleases and adapts.  How this has effected those that expect her to be in a certain role and how they have dealt with the process.  It reminded me of how when we change others are still in a place of expecting us to be a certain way.  Lastly, it was fantastic to see a newcomer to the group be so welcomed and supported.  Its always scary joining a group that have previously met.  I could see the nerves and ambivalence with her and it pulled me into wanting to rescue which i declined.  Thank goodness i did because really there was no need.