Often in life i see people project onto others that its everyone else that has issues “not me”.  I find this very interesting as due to the complexity of the human being i think we are hard pushed to see anyone without issues worldwide.  I rather look at people as having gritty bits because of being part of the human race.  This can be liberation itself as we can let go of all this mythical stuff of its everyone else regardless of whether its about addiction or other stuff.  “Its all stuff”  AS THIS IS THE STUFF OF LIFE.  This is why  when being part of the fellowship it can dilute the absolute humiliation that one can experience in life.  I see this as part of life script as most people during the course of childhood have experienced humiliation and shame.  A horrible and painful part of being human and this is where i see infant development as holding trauma.  The addict feels huge shame and  being  judged further compounds the shame.  In society addiction is judged and this is why addicts need other addicts to heal.    To accept the animal we are we have to accept that we all have issues, gritty bit or flaws.  The shame of this often causes individuals to feel vulnerable thus powerless.  This can be hidden just as an addict hides which has consequences as “secrets can make us sick”.  This is about emotional sickness if we keep stuff inside and dont accept ourselves and the fabric of life.  This knowledge has to move from our heads to our hearts for any moment of healing and clarity.  This is a soothing mechanism iself that goes back to early development.  As babies we did not think ourselves fed, soothed or attached.  As babies we felt ourselves, fed, soothed or attached.  This is powerful in itself when looking at the phenomena of addiction.