We can really feel stuck with certain ways of being that are uncomfortable.  For some its an enmeshment that feels like “I’m dammed if i do and dammed if i don’t”.  Its an impasse that can take time to work through and process or  develop beliefs in other things.  It can seem like a juncture “what way do i turn and go” or “I will sit on this fence for a while as i am scared to move”.  These are really fearful places to be and that is why i see step 3 as being about the important start to being open to learning.  This in itself means we are then open to evolving which is a life long process. It is not about giving ourselves up and jumping off the cliff but a surrender to care which even if uncomfortable is much safer then what we were doing before.  Its an opportunity to put down what is holding us back and work on overcoming any negative beliefs or unproductive preconceptions we may have about life and higher power.  If this process evolves then we can develop and react differently to what goes on in life.  Its rather like the film the wizard of ozz,  with the lion wanting courage, the tin man wanting a heart etc.  However, the ending is much more real and not a con.  As being open hearted and putting down defences allows us to ask for what we need to survive life.  We may then find that vulnerability is a strength and not a weakness.  That is okay to love without fear, give without expectations of exchange and have joy without fear of repercussions. If we become more open to the process and create the space to develop rather then keep on carrying the baggage from our histories then we can also receive what we ask for..  We can mature, gain peace and serenity, feel courage and that our lives have meaning.