This injunction can reinforce a lot of scare in individuals leaving them in a place of avoiding life. This can manifest in not doing anything risky because it can be dangerous and avoiding even general activities or steps in life to create a form of safety. Often a belief is carried that if i do nothing then i cant get into any harm. This can leave people in passivity, dithering, procrastinating, getting nowhere and feeling frustrated as they are incapacitated . Then not taking action to change can put one into a cycle of despair because doing nothing does not mean that the mind stops working and thinking. This eventually can lead individuals into driving themselves “nuts” “I am doing my own head in” “people think that nothing goes on for me but It does”. The baton of fear can be passed from parent to child relatively easily especially if the environment is fear filled or overprotective. If a parent is terrified if the child is harmed or running free is a risk then this is transferred. Its almost like one has steel apron strings on and creating safety is so paramount as everything feels like a risk. A lot is not in reality and one cannot accept that life cannot be in full control. No-one can predict everything and provide a environment that is 100% safe. It is then difficult to accept life for the gift it is and to surrender all the strategies that provide a “kind of gilded internal prison.
STEP 4 “Don’t Do Anything”
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