The importance of being in touch with feelings also includes our pain.  People who suffer with addiction can avoid the pain with using as a form of defence and feeding for comfort.  Similarly the script is constructed with defences and shields that protect one from any dis-comfort.  This can manifest in many ways with values, judgement , prejudices, anger, dislikes and likes. We can be propelled along by our script habits as a form of holding onto security and comfort which at times is meaningless.   Sometimes our opinions and beliefs are truly arbitrary.  If we go near our pain and feel the often groundlessness of sorrow we can then connect with a natural warmth.