Individuals who have this injunction may have difficulty with intimacy.  I see many people who have been helped by the  SLA fellowship as they have struggled with life due to their ambivalence in relationships.  They may be sexual but cannot be intimate as in letting others in.  Or they may share but feel repelled by the thought of sex with their partner.  Others may like the chase but cannot settle down and seek stimulation external to the relationship.  Or there are those who feel disappointed in relationships or just don’t know how to be with a significant other.  This is not just in relationships that this manifests itself.  It can relate to friendships, families and wanting to be alone but then dis-satisfied.  We all need others in our life to be close to as we thrive in healthy relationships.  The injunction can be modelled by parents who seldom touch each other or the child.Or be passed down through the generations in families who rarely talk about feelings.  It can even happen when a parent goes away abruptly as the child can then experience rejection.  It really is about separation to protect from the pain of being close or rejected.  Then an individual may not know what to do when others are warm to them.  They don’t know how to receive the kindness and love with the heart that it is given. It is very relevant to individuals who are destructive with secure and loving relationships after a period of time.  There is something about not really knowing what to do with something that you really need “Being Close”.