When i am among Europeans I feel like an Indian.  When I am among Indians, I feel like a European.  I can really relate to this being brought up with both Irish and Polish communities which mean I  didn’t fit with either and often did not feel secure or centred.  In adult like i have used this to my advantage and can be regarded as a bit  bohemian or even maverick.  I have friends from all sorts of walks of life which I delight in as I have diversity.  Here injunctions can work to ones advantage but you do have to know them in the first place.  The person complying with Don’t Belong feels out of it in groups and so is likely to be seen by others as different , at times unsociable or even a loner.  The message can be conveyed in many ways from telling children they are different.  Even too much background variation and not enough consistency can have consequences.  Or the parents own social ineptitude which is passed on.  Even telling children they are shy can manifest not belonging or  if one is a scapegoat .  Even in childhood if one is treated as very special this can carry this message.